Tension: the act of stretching or straining, pressure, mental or emotional strain, intense, suppressed suspense, anxiety, or excitement.
Tension or stress can be positive or negative depending on your response to it. You can see it as an opportunity to grow, learn, and become a better you or something to avoid at all costs.
Ask yourself: Does tension/stress/conflict cause you to feel: anxiety, incapable, fear, worry, or burnt out ?
OR are you able to see : motivating factors, potential, excitement, possibilities, opportunity, productivity ?
Applying the right approach to stress will give you the space to respond vs. react. Be aware of which way you lean, reframe your buts, obstacles, and negative self talk.
For example: We're in the middle of a 30 day Plank Challenge. As the days go on, we're holding the pose longer, the tension builds, physically, and in our minds. As I did my first 90 second hold, I thought to myself, yikes, how will I ever hold this plank for 5 minutes on day 30?! Now I have trained myself, (yes trained, which requires time, effort and discipline) to think better of myself. So I pause, and reframe the negative thought to: I commit to this challenge each day. I am training in good faith, because God blesses action. I invite Him into the process. I will persevere, and trust that with Him all things are possible! Amen and Amen! Voila, the next 2 90 second holds I felt stronger, because I am stronger, in body through discipline, in mind through positive response, and spirit through God, who is the Almighty!
The key is perspective. How you see God, yourself, others, relationship, spirit, ....is what you become.
...suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5